To join any of the online groups
- Must be 21+. Anyone looking really young will need to show ID.
- To come to a party you must fill out the registration form on Join to provide DTFP admin team your information which includes name, photo, location and relationship status.
- Once you are approved to come, you will be added to a tracking list so we can keep attendees to about 25 people. If something comes up and you can’t make it, you need to let Admins know so we can let someone on the waiting list come. If you don’t message and don’t show up, you will get a ding and after 3 dings you won’t be invited back.
- To invite someone you need to verify with Admins first if they can come to confirm space ratio and if not on the “Not Invited” list.
- 🚫 NO politics or religion talked about – period. Everyone has an opinion and you can’t just assume that people agree with yours. Lifestyle events has no place for this.
- In the groups, limited pics & memes, no pic theme days. No nudes on FB, don’t try to push the line.
- We have the right to deny/remove anyone from the group.
At the Party
- 🚫 No weapons (guns including CCW or knives) or hard drugs.
- 🚫 No smoking or vaping in the room.
- 🚫 No one that has ever tested postive for a non-curable STD.
- Don’t be afraid to just watch. Exhibitionists need voyeurs. Only do what you are comfortable with. No, means NO.
- Consent: If you want to kiss, suck, touch or finger someone, say something as simple as, “May I join you?” with direct eye contact and get a verbal yes. If they decline, do not try again later in the night. If you start touching without permission 3 times, you will be asked to leave and put on the “Not Invited” list.
Consent goes both ways, men must get permission before touching women but women must also get consent before touching men and other women. No one can give someone else’s consent either. Do not tell someone to play with someone else without asking THEM first. People’s comfort levels are at different places and it’s up to them set the speed. If there is any doubt about where someone stands, error on the side of caution.
- Put on a new condom for each partner then throw condoms away in trash cans – Not on the table/floor.
- Wash hands at the beginning of playing and use hand sanitizer between fingering ladies. (Not doing this is comparable to not using condoms cause you can transfer an STI between the ladies with wet hands.) If you have a cut/open wound, please use gloves.
- Please keep your valuables in your car.
- Alcohol :“Know Your Limits” Avoid getting too intoxicated and be cautious of playing with someone who is. Nearly every time there is an incident in the lifestyle, alcohol is involved. It impairs judgment, the ability to ask consent, the ability to give it, respecting boundaries, gauging social cues. It also fucks up performance and the sexual experience. So many ruined encounters and missed opportunities…
If we could ban alcohol at our lifestyle events, we would but ee want people to have fun and unfortunately alcohol… is so deeply embedded in our culture, we can’t have fun without it. To the point where people think you are somehow socially inept if you don’t drink. So we understand that some need a bit to loosen up. That being said if we feel you are starting to cross a line, you will be asked to leave. If you think you will have an issue with moderation / self-control, do not put yourself in that situation by partaking.
How To Play Safe
- Assume condom use with everyone. After deep consideration, we strongly encourage that everyone uses condoms with anyone who are not their primary partner. All it would take is one outbreak of 3 or more people in the group passing around something and it could seriously damage the reputation of this group as its primary focus is sex; not just socializing. We hope you understand. There will be plenty in various sizes from small/medium/large and non-latex provided by Charles Drew Health Clinic.
- We recommend being STD tested every 3 months.
- We recommend Charles Drew Health Clinic in Omaha. They provide walk-in testing or to schedule a testing appointment call (402) 451-3553 and ask for Abigail Lechner APRN or her nurse Mallory James. They are both very sex positive and support the lifestyle through proper testing. https://charlesdrew.com/reproductive-health/
- To ensure that you are getting fully tested, not just the minimum.
Here is what is considered a full panel:
- STD/STI ~ Type of Test/Location
- Chlamydia (swabs for Vagina, Throat & Rectum; urine for penis)
- Gonorrhea (swabs for Vagina, Throat & Rectum; urine for penis)
- Trichomoniasis (swabs for Vagina; Urine for penis)
- HIV (Blood)
- Hepatitis (Blood)
- HPV (Women’s Pap)
- Syphilis (Blood)
- Herpes (Active sore)
- Partners hack is to test in alternate months for better coverage.
- You also need to wait 5 days after a possible exposure to get tested to avoid a false negative.
- If you know that someone in the group has a STD/STI, use this form to anonymously report it. We will reach out to them and ask for proof of a recent clear test result before allowing them to attend a party.
- To really be safe consider taking a daily medication called PrEP (means Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis), that is a anti-HIV medication to keep HIV negative people from becoming infected. PrEP is approved by the FDA and has been shown to be safe and effective at preventing HIV infection. More information on http://www.whatisprep.org.
- More information is on https://dtfpineapples.com/stdtesting/.
Keep an open mind about sex partners. Go into the event with a more open mind than you have in your traditional dating life. This sex-positive environment is an excellent opportunity to consider sexual partners who you might not traditionally find attractive, such as people with different body types, different genders, or even different personalities. You might discover a new turn-on that carries over into your regular sex life.
Being a gentleman or lady and introducing yourself goes a long way! Talk and mingle, we all have one thing in mind so you have something in common already!
P.S. This also a great time to share your test results, bonus point to those that can prove it.
Rules subject to change in the future as things evolve. Last revised: 5/12/22